Dear  Elizabeth:

I am very honor to reply your questions and help you to get out of the trouble.Furthermore,after I read your letter,I notice that the incident happened in the middle of the night.So,I hope you can understand that why bystanders make you feel callous because there is not safe to aid other people in that time.

There are some recommendation you can follow.First,you can install the monitor in every corner of the store.Second,you can also install a cage outside the checkout counter.Third,contact to police and ask them if they can patrol around your store in the midnight.

I am so sorry about the situation you had before.I wish you feel better right now.If you still have any question would like to inquire,please feel free to contact me.

Dear Elizabeth,
      
I am so sorry for your unfortunate experience.But,I want to tell you ,this is realistic society which is consist of bad people,normal people and good people,you can't change that.The only thing you can do is change yourself.
     
 You maybe blame them wrongly.Perhaps they just drove past but then called police. everyone don't like to put themselves on the edge of valley.However,their leaving doesn't reprensent they are apathetic, they just want to protect themselves safety as the same time rescuing you .The final result is that you are survive.So,when some oher people are sufferring emergency,please hold out your hands.
    
  Maybe your help is like a drop of water to this society. But,believe in yourself, sooner or later, countless drops of water will become a sea filling in the sky hole of apathy.

Dear Elizabeth:

You do not need to say sorry, it was not your fault, it is just a common reaction in humans. Frustration needs to be let out of our bodies so we are not filled with it.

I am so sorry that something as stressful as that happened to you but I am happy that you were not hurt badly.

I kind of know how you must be feeling because what you went through it is not easy to move on from and also because the desperation you must have felt when you were trying to attract someone to help you and not even a single soul did, I think is one of the worst feeling in the world.

I think there were some factors about the situation you experienced, the could have influenced the people around you that could have helped you; some of them being: the time, the environment and the way you looked. Those factors were keeping the people from intervening in your situation.

Even though there were factors involved, those were no excuses enough for them to not show kindness to you. So yes, showing your anger is not bad; is the other way around.

Love, Abby.

Dear Elizabeth.

Dear Elizabeth:


I feel bad about what happened to you, and thank God you are okay now. I know that you are angry, and I can not blame you  because that was a difficult situation. Although this case passed without hurt, you did a mistake when you decided to work at midnight till 6 in the morning. Darkness is appreciated by criminals to practice their bad activities such as stealing and murdering. Also, I believe that the justice will give your right. In addition. I have faith on police officers and investigators that they will catch the criminals sooner or later. I know most people did not help you as you mentioned. Some people might think your problem non of their business. Moreover, they did not want to bear the responsibility when no one stopped to help you. In addition, some people were scared when they saw you, and thought you would involve them in a problem. I'm glad to share your problem with me.

Dear Elizabeth,

      I have to admit it if I were you I would be totally upset about what happened that day. I feel so sorry that nobody stopped to untie you after a long time. However, you should understand that today we live in a country where the people usually do not trust each other easily. This is because of the fear that the media impose through the news. For example, have you seen all of the cases of people who were cheated on the highway by a stranger who was supposed to need help? Those harmless people who stopped to give a hand were injured and their innocence got betrayed.  You would probably be thinking  how can a woman hurt someone? But  because of the distrust of the people they do not want to get involved despite  the fact that you seemed helpless. When people  witness danger, the first thing that comes to their mind is evaluating the type of risk. In addition, they analyze if their own integrity would get violated or not. Before all of this happens, they make a decision. In regard to the people who didn’t help you, perhaps for them, it was difficult to decide if your situation was a real emergency or it was just a trap. Hopefully, you will never be in this situation again in your life.


It has been  a pleasure to read your message, Elizabeth.
Kind regards, Abby.

No Worries Elizabeth

Dear Elizabeth,

I am really sorry to hear something horrible happened to you, and I am happy that you are safe. The situation that you had is really tough to deal with it by yourself. Also, it was so hard for me when I heard that no one helped you out. You should know that many people do not like giving a hand to other people for many reasons.

Many people need to think a lot before they give some help, because they think it is not their business. So,they do not want to get in trouble. In addition, bystanders are afraid that might be a joke or you’re going to hurt them by stealing or killing them. Thus, they want to protect themselves and the easiest solution that they do is ignoring. Or some people say: ” I do not have enough time to give a hand, someone else will give a hand sooner.”

Moreover, it is hard for many people to decide if it is an emergency situation or not. So, they need a lot of time to think if they have the right to involve or not. Finally, bystanders are influenced by other people, which means they do not stop to assist the person, because they do not see anyone involved in the situation. For these reasons, many people do not give any help.

My response:

Dear Elizabeth,

I’m sorry for what happened to you. It is sad that nobody helped you. It is maybe because the people have their own reasons to not help you. However, I’m glad that you did not get injured but I know it is emotionally effected. Some of the drivers were alone so they felt dangerous to help you. Also, they might not saw you while they are passing by. Also, maybe they were afraid that you were going to trick them and take their money or even kill them. Finally, the people who did not help you should be ashamed of themselves. I know it is hard that society acts in this way. However, the best thing we can do is to give the from ourselves. In this way we are trying to make a little good difference to the community. Whether you feel insecure about the neighborhood you should look for another place to work in. On the country, try to overcome the situation and do not let it affects you deeply. 

Best regards, 

Dear Elizabeth

Dear Elizabeth,

  I am glad you take the time to write this letter for me and to explain to me the horrible situation you lived. I know that you most be furious and injured mentally and physically because of course you just being robbed and it was not even your time to work. Therefore, I am aware of your preoccupation and I am really sorry for you. I am hoping you will not live this type of emotional feeling and emergency again.
   The callousness of the bystanders was reflected because they thought your tragedy was not an emergency and because of other two reason, because people follow the crowd, that means that people in the area did not do anything to help you creating a deterioration in the instant action and because they were afraid of being tricked or maybe hurted as well.
    I can assure you that you will feel a little more safe now with our new security camera system that I will turned on twenty four hours, every day of the week. I am really looking forward you will feel comfortable with this new strategy that we are creating not only for you but also for each neighbor too.

Dear Elizabeth

First of all, thanks for sharing your story with me. I completely empathize with you, the lack of compassion from the bystanders is lamentable.

Although, there are some factors such as the time that played against you. This apathetic respond was caused by a social behavior in which strangers do not show concern or interest in others problems because they think is not of their business. When you were claiming for public aid the bystanders were not sure about what was happening, maybe there got scared or felt insecure about what to do. Consequently, the hesitation of one person leaded to a state called "pluralistic ignorance" and that may have been the reason why you had to wait so long for help. 

I know people acted with indifference and I really hope you will never have to face that situation again, felling that frustration must be terrible. However, your case can be an example and you can encourage other people to stop being callous and think more about helping the others. 

The Response to Elizabeth

               The Response to Elizabeth


  Dear Elizabeth,

  I am happy to receive your letter and to be your listener, and I am very glad that heard you are safe now. At first, I have the same anger with you to those apathetic people who did not help you. But when we clam down, thinking about this whole thing, you can understand it is hard to make a decision in that situation.

  First, it was so early (only daybreak), maybe the passersby afraid to stop. Imaging that there were only few people in the street, the road was still so quite. So when they saw you be tied alone, the fist thinking in their mind probably was fear. They were not sure whether the robber still around there, or if there was a trap and you were going to trick them, take their money or kill them.
  
  Most importantly, the bystanders did not see anyone else who stopped to help you. Others'reactions can affect people's opinions directly. If you were one of them, when you saw someone be tied at the street, though you wanted to help, you saw others did not interpret in, then you would doubt yourself, and suspected that maybe that person was not in danger. 
 For this reasons, they might not mean to ignore you, please believe there still have the love around us. 

Letter

Dear Elizabeth

I am so sorry that you had to go through this. This is a horrible situation where no one should ever have to endure. I think it is really brave of you to share your story because it will help us understand why people act a certain way. Unfortunately, our society is very insensitive to the needs and safety of other people around them. Nowadays, the majority of people only focus on their own well-being, therefore causing them to become more selfish and narcissistic human beings. However, this is not a valid excuse for people not to step in and help. Nevertheless, there are many factors that influence on a person to react indifferent to others. For instance, people do not help because most of them think what happens to others is not their business. This phenomenon is referred to in social psychology as the bystander effect. On the other hand, people are also afraid to step in because they are worried that they could also be attacked and robbed.

Today, many people in this generation lack morals and values of compassion and empathy for other people besides themselves. However, this does not imply that everyone from this generation behaves in this manner. With that being said, I believe that there are some principals that should be taught to young children instead of allowing them to consume hours of social media and television on a daily basis. Furthermore, I hope that future generations to come can inherit more compassion for other people.

Elizabeth, I think you should thoroughly reflect on this experience and decide whether or not you feel safe in this neighborhood. Note that these events can occur anywhere, but if you feel moving is a good choice for you, then I would recommend you to do it. On the contrary, you should not let this situation affect your outlook on society. Try and continue to stay positive and move forward with your life.  Thank you for letting us to listen to you.

Best wishes.

People's lives are busy.They are often too rushed

Why people refuse to give public aid and it becomes more and more usual than before?
People's lives are busy,every one has different reason for every day's life. They do not want to spend too much time on other people,especially strangers. So,they usually ignore other people when they walk on the street,even though someone fell down on the ground or someone really needs them help.In addition,most people do not like to get involved in  the trouble.So,for the above reason,people consider that the best solution is going away when something happen in front of them.
In conclusion,I do not like the situation as the video that teacher plays during the class.Why many people can so indifferent in now society? How long will it take to make a call for a ambulance? How about thinking in this way, what if the same condition happens on ourselves,we also need other people's help.

public aid

As much as one would wish to help the less fortunate in the society, there a couple of things that may prevent a person to offer to charity or increase to foreign aid spending. It is claimed that many charity organizations are often mismanaged where some may even argue that they may be of less importance since they do not solve problems in the society but rather just help those people affected thus it does not change the society. Another reason as to why it may be a challenge for me to give my contributions to the needy is because the contributions rather benefit the government where some of their responsibilities are taken care of or rather in some cases where it has been claimed that charity has been used to supplement government spend other than being used to provide service for the public. The methods or technicalities that are used to assist the less fortunate in the society are also not equal to all. For example where the government tax the donations for a project it reduces their revenue thus it becomes hard for them to implement.In order to deal with this challenges, a couple of systems being used have to be changed such as the charity organisations promotion basis which will help distinguish between charities that will help to save life by dealing with the problems other than trying to console  the affected. Some of the aims of charity may impose obligations in cases where it is unethical or they controversial human rights where some rules may be implemented in order to make sure that the donations become of benefit to all. In cases where the charity is highly influential and thus it involves a couple of managements, it has ended up not attaining their full aims since there are people that exist within who have motives to benefit themselves from the funds. This may challenge people to trust the charities managements of the funds aimed at finishing  problems in the society.

“Ethics Guide” BBC, 2014. Web. 4 Apr, 2016 Arguments Against Charity: what’s wrong 

with charity

The reluctance from giving public aid has several reasons, and it is difficult to know the main reason or real reason. I think there are three reasons why helping people in public is not common, and why people do not consider it as a social problem.

The first reason is people might count on each other for helping a person in need. Indeed, if we all do the same thing people in need would never get help. Secondly, sometimes friends or family may scoff at an assistant person, and they may also consider him as an easy to be fooled. The third reason which I think why people do not give public aid is social classes, social classes  are classified into three classes upper class, middle class, and lower class. People prefer to help people who belong to their class, for example, the middle class which includes most people who we see them daily prefers to help a person who wears clothes as good as theirs. 

To sum up, public aid is not habit for people in many reasons. people depend on others to give a hand for person in need, deride at a helpful person, and classify people on their dress.

My Reasons for The Reluctance

                      My Reasons for The Reluctance

   When I'm reluctant facing the stranger's asking, the main reason is I don't feel competent or qualified to help. If a person ask me the question which I don't know, I can't help him. And if I know the answer, I will help them. 

   

   However, most of time I won't give up my thing to try to find the way to help that person. Like if a stranger asks me the direction which I don't know, I just say sorry, rather than calling to my friends or family to ask for help. Maybe this is kind of self-absorbed, or I just sometimes uninterested in the lives of others. 

   

   But there still have some situations that I will try my best to help strangers. Like the strangers are children, elder, or disability person. I mean, I can't refuse their help who really need help.

    

   And there also have one thing I need to discuss alone, that is about money. When people ask me the money, most of time I won't give them, because I think I shouldn't encourage this behavior, if they get money from others ,they may used to asking money. I will donate my money to people who really need this. who really face emergencies and will appreciate this money.

People are basically self-absorbed and uninterested in the lives of others.

People are basically self-absorbed and uninterested in the lives of others. 

The are a lot of reason why people do not give public aid. One of those reasons is that people are not interested in the lives of others, but why?

On the one hand, people are focus on providing all needs for their family and close friends. For them, the world is about their relatives and close friends and never think about there are many people suffering on the streets or even people they know. However, people is too busy on being so selfish with their neighbors. In other words, they do not pay much attention on what is going on outside.   

There are more factors that affect the decision of people to be uninterested in helping others. Some people think that others will give support to the needy people. They do not feel responsible for supporting other in any aspect. As a result, they just ignore others because maybe their families or communicate did not inculcate some caring about others. Perhaps, they do not understand the concept of giving to others like strangers. 

A solution for this situation could be families and schools teach more values of caring people. Showing that is not necessary people solve only their own problems and there are many ways to help others. If we work as a good team, all the community and country could reach many goals, many important aspects on economy, development, education, and health. Supporting each other will help to many of people feel good and have hope in themselves. 

People fear being taken advantage of by others.

    Stranger Intervention, is a relational wedge that reflects a way to initiate a conversation with a stranger in public without introducing themselves. Therefore, in my opinion a relational wedge needs to be applied with careful because you never know who could hurt you or who has bad intentions. Moreover, the real reason why I do not like to be a petitioner is because the granter may be in a rush or even in a hard time and I would not be the person who stops its time.
    I think that most of the people when they use public aid are qualified as a "persuaders" because they find the way to manipulate you by taking advantage of your time and maybe of something else too, for example robbing your wallet.
    In conclusion, the Public Aid needs to be required to the right person, in other words, choose the person who looks like he or she knows. Anyway, I prefer not to ask for help or being asked on the streets because i could turned into something bad. Therefore, my motto is always "Do not trust everybody".
    

People fear being taken advantage of by others.

Sometimes I am reluctant about giving public aid because I am afraid that the person may be dangerous or have bad intentions behind their petitions. Because the people who ask for my help are strangers, I don't have any information that gives me some security. Most of the time when I am asked for money or favors on the streets I am prevented, because they could be lying and taking advantage of my help.
However, depending on the context I could do an exception and give public help more relaxed. For example if I am in a safe public place with security guards and the people in there have a good appearance.Other situation will be an emergency where I am aware that something bad is happening and others need my help.
Even though there is always the possibility that the petitioner takes advantage of the situation, there are some cases when you take the risk because in one way or another you feel secure. However, besides this exceptions, prevention is better than the cure.

What keeps me from giving public aid?

People fear being taken advantage of by others is my main reason as to why in some cases I would not help people in "need".

There have been situations in which people trying to be kind get hurt by those who are asking for help because they are not satisfied with what they are getting from others. 

It has happened to me before so that is why I am always reluctant to give help to others because I am not sure how they are going to react.

Before I give public aid to someone I have to study them first because appearance for me tells a story so I always read them and them if I feel comfortable enough I do help them and If I do not I try being as polite as I can and excuse myself and walk away really fast just in case of something happening because of my denial. 

An specific case where I always give public aid is when there is a mother or father asking for money with their kids, It touches my heart so I always help but not by giving them money I just give them food because even though they have their kids right beside them I do not really know them and I do not know how is that money going to be spent.  

People's lives are busy.

There are multiple reasons why people do not receive public aid. Generally,  people are used to thinking that everyone is busy and that interrupting someone else can be annoying. There is when asking for public aid becomes an issue.  We live in a hurried society in which  time is money, so that when people need to get public aid choosing the correct stranger might be a real pain. Another reason why people do not receive public aid is due to bad experiences. For instance, if once you asked somebody on the street to give you money but the result was negative and you did not receive a penny, probably you will not ask for money on the street again because previously the petition was not successful. An aspect that would have to change to give public aid is the way of thinking about people. In addition, people should be more disposed to give public aid. Also, people have to know that giving public aid is not a waste of time. For example, someone asks you on the street to help him to carry some bags to his car. You should decide to give the public aid or not but before you make a decision think about yourself in a similar situation. Would you like to be ignored by everybody on the street? Undoubtedly, no.  So before you reject giving public aid to a stranger, you should think twice about it.

Many people sometimes need some help in many situations. In our class, we have discussed about Public Aid, which means that you have the ability to help other people, and you have the choice if you want to help or not. However, many people do not give public aid, because they think that a strange person wants to hurt them. So, they want to protect themselves by not giving public aid. Also, they think that many people pretend that they need some help and the truth they want to fool them. However, people can change this by helping the right person. They can give public aid for the person who looks lost. In the other words, they can help the person and they can be safe. In addition, they should be careful when they want to help someone, so they will not be fooled when they help other people. These are reasons that in my opinion will let people give public aid.